More than a Mystic in High heels: Exploring the New Feminine Spirituality

“A woman in harmony with her spirit 
is like a river flowing.
 She goes where she will without pretense and arrives at her destination
 prepared to be herself 
and only herself ”~ Maya Angelou

When I first read Maya Angelou’s quote above, my body and soul let out a deep sigh…

I was in my early twenties and I was seeking to just be my most brilliant self, a spark of the Divine as expressed in my female body. I wanted to use my talents to serve others and was unsure where to begin. This quote didn’t tell me how, but it sure exemplified how it might be to show up and shine, “ahhh to be in harmony with my spirit.”

At 19, I wrote a letter to the Universe and asked that I be a channel for inspiration, creativity, love and healing. I soon discovered…

Once you raise your hand in God’s classroom, You’re IN!

Volunteering or rather acknowledging my calling threw me into what I call “the trenches.” Learning about being spiritual by facing fears and growing into adulthood with a purpose I actually had no idea how to attain. My intense training began.

I moved to Manhattan from Queens, by day I worked in film and by night; I read, did research practiced various healing and mystical arts. I also started giving intuitive readings at corporate events and private parties.

I never wanted to say that I haven’t tried what my heart pulled me to…so I explored acting, directing, writing, belly dancing. I learned that everything I have ever done has served me in this path and that no experience or relationship was a waste of time. Each and every experience and training influences my practice and my work today!

I wanted to be myself, accept myself and just flow with the tides without controlling or worrying about where I was going and how was I going to get there. I wanted to release the fears of being “too much” or conversely, “not enough.”

This search for healing, understanding and awareness has led me to ask profound questions and living into the answers. While our inquisitive minds can analyze and explain into early morning hours with kindred spirits there is a huge part of existence that is unexplainable…the Mystery.

The Mystery is all encompassing and sustains us. We must deal with it with utter faith, deep trust, compassionate love and unconditional surrender.

Surrender to me means that as a soul having human experiences we strive to do the best we can. Aware that we are in a learning process and that “it’s okay to learn as I go.” We also do all we can and then LET GO.

Yes, we must pour our love into our work,
fill our relationships with sacred presence and then release…

We do not know all outcomes even if highly intuitive.
We are taken to the path and we are supported.

In the end, as much of a go-getting, organized type A you can be…there is much you cannot control. If we can acknowledge that there is a greater plan at work. A master plan, if you will…our lives start to flow more and we start to experience greater harmony.

In my intuitive session work that’s my strongest skill. I don’t google my clients or want to hear their questions until I get an initial reading and share with them what I am picking up.

Imagine every time you had to show up to a large part of your work…that you had no spreadsheets, research, outlines, background on your case and you were not armed with the fool-proof coaching questions that let you see clearly into a client?

No, I just say hello, a prayer and start sharing what I see, hear, feel and know.

That’s how surrender has evolved in my life.

I can’t be afraid of the outcome, or that it may not show up.

I’m there as the vessel and Spirit has my back. Period.

That ability that I have in the intuitive part of my work is one that I am cultivating in other areas of my life. Scary and its been worth it! The more I surrender, the calmer and more open and peaceful I feel even if the outcome is not what I wanted.

Understanding that everything happens for a reason and there may be something better for me along the way helps me deal with disappointments that happen in everyday life.

It is part of our growth and education to learn to deal with our own unique trials and very real physical challenges. It is up to us to keep connecting to our inner life when the outer world is pushing its way in. It’s up to us to be open to finding our people, our friends, allies and sacred community.

As Caroline Myss, medical intuitive and NY Times best-seller author has said, “For the first time in history, we are mystics without monasteries.”

It is very clear to me that these days we are being called into a deeper experience of God in many ways. The definition of a mystic is—someone who wants to engage in direct conversation with God.

The Urban Priestess reworks the outmoded image of a mystic.

An urban priestess is a mystic in high heels, mani-pedi’s and clothes that represent her on many levels. Of course, only if she wants to rock the heels if not flip flops have become typical of the modern day wise woman, urban shaman and urban priestess.

That’s what my life has been as an urban priestess…I maintain a conversation with God as I live, survive and thrive in this modern world full of both high tech and basic demands.

Without a temple, convent or monastery…I’ve learned to have spiritual practices that support my mind, body and spirit through the most trying of times. I’ve learned to give gratitude thru art, singing, dancing and giving to others. I’ve learned to pour my love and Soul into everything I do.

I realized that I had intense intuition as a child and teen and cultivated it secretly for a long time. Then I felt a calling to gather women and have done that since 1999. Men started joining us in 2010.

When Spirit says, “Gather them. Speak. Heal. Tell them…” I do it to the best of my ability. It can be challenging to fight the internal pull I always have to run into a temple and wait for people to knock when they need my services.

As a modern day priestess I serve wherever I am and I have to communicate the work in order to serve well. I know I must share my experiences and reach out to those that may be going through similar situations or experiences. I know I have to share my deep inner world in order to gain entrance into yours…smile.

I am constantly learning and growing. Cultivating beginner’s mind and accessing ancient wisdom that can be applied in a practical way to everyday issues.

People have asked me, “What is an Urban Priestess?”

I believe that she is like you and me. We are spiritual seekers, dreamers and lovers. We may also follow technical trends and hit fashion shows whenever possible…or perpetually live dressed in NYC black or t-shirt and jeans.

It doesn’t matter if she has always been in touch with her divine sacredness or if she’s had a recent breakthrough…the fact is…she is AWAKE.

Now, I didn’t say perfect. Or enlightened beyond everyday existence. She is awake and awakening more deeply each day.

She understands that life is a journey and that we all have our own way. She knows that healing and releasing “stories” and worn-out beliefs is imperative so that she may feel free and live the life she was born to live.

The Urban priestess has broken free or is in the process of releasing the old spiritual cannons (sometimes subconscious) of celibacy, poverty, martyrdom and sacrifice. I’ve had quite struggle in my own life leaving behind those unconscious beliefs about sacrifice and service.

An Urban Priestess KNOWS that the more she THRIVES…the more she can create, dance, write, mother and love the WORLD.

One thing is clear to me about urban priestesses…we do it OUR WAY. Respectful of the old ways and well-read in world religions we gather knowledge and apply it to our everyday lives.

We honor our wisdom, we honor our bodies that speak to us in a myriad of ways…

Some rock Buddhist beads and divinate with African shells others carry their trusty Goddess Card apps on their mini-ipad or iPhone. Yeah we pick a card, “What do I need to know right now?” on the train, the plane or the automobile.

We know that there are no coincidences.

The definitive thing about an Urban Priestess though is…

She embodies the Divine Feminine in all her guises and beauty.

She knows her worth and value.

Knows in her bones that sensuality and spirituality are not in opposition of Spirit, rather in sacred service of the Divine.

She is connected to nature and is very in touch with her “animal” the primal needs and desires that seek expression through her body. In doing so she acknowledges her body’s deep wisdom and heals the centuries old rift between the flesh and the Spirit.

This is a rift caused by human beings afraid of the unknown. Afraid of their passions and Soul. In an effort to control and manipulate nature we have been split from our bodies and Gaia (the Earth) has suffered pollution and damage we still cannot fathom.

An Urban Priestess understands that she stands on the shoulders of the women that came before her and the women that can before Her…we are linked thru blood, spirit and subconscious patterns and stories to all the Mothers. We are here to heal the “sister divide” and to release our mothers, grandmothers and ancestors by living more FULLY and FREER than they ever had the chance to be.

You Must Know about High Heels

The original function of shoes is to protect the feet, and the decorative function is just a derivative function, but today people are following a cart-before-horse thinking that the decorative function of shoes is the most important.

Shoes become more and more beautiful, but they are not necessarily comfortable, and in some cases they might even hurt foot or other body parts. It’s really cruel torture when wearing uncomfortable shoes. Then what health effects of these styles of shoes and what kind of shoes can be both beautiful and healthy?

High heels will let you have a figure of perfect elegance, but it is real torture from the toe to the spine. It’s obvious that because of the raising heels, weight borne by whole foot is centralized at the forefoot which is unfit for loading, adding burden to the forefoot, making you feel more painful when standing and walking.

High heels can affect the foot bone health. When wearing high heels, ankle joint becomes loose and not stable which will increase the possibility to get sprained and cause ligamentous injury, tendon rupture or even fracture. If the heel is too high, metatarsophalangeal joints in the excessive stretched state will lead to subluxation of the metatarsophalangeal joint, and even fatigue fracture (stress fracture).

High heel is one of the factors contributing to osteoarthritis of the knee. Ankle is unable to play the normal function because of high heels, knee joint must be under greater pressure in order to maintain stability of the body when walking; tension and pressure for a long time can cause inflammation of the knee. Studies have shown that wearing high heels for walking knee pressure will increase 23% on average. Wearing high heels when climbing stairs, pressure for knee increases 3 times than usual times; Going down the stairs will even increase 7~9 times of pressure than usual. Consequently, when wearing high heels, you’d better climb the stairs as fewer times as possible.

Is the thick heel safer than thin heels? Actually there’s no big difference between both knee injuries. While thick high heel causes knee wear increasing 22%, fine high heel increases 26%. However, thin heels certainly increase the possibility to sprain ankle due to instability. When wearing high heels, human center of gravity moves forward, and to get balance human body will take initiative back. Physiological curvature of the spine gets worse; vertebra contact area reduces and pressure increases, the load on the spine becomes bigger. Back and hip muscles in contraction for a long time is easy to raise lumbago and back pain.

Remember the principle that to wear the right shoes on right occasions. In daily life, we recommend that you choose loose, suitable shoes in accordance with arches physiological principle with adequate height for heels. It is more suitable for you to wear sport shoes for a long time walking when traveling, and they would also be useful to correct foot problems. If you want to wear high heels, it is necessary to carefully select shoes. Suitable shape of shoe and heel height makes the foot not so easily tired; shoes with built-in auxiliary tools of certain hardness such as built-in heel cup and arch support pads will effectively reduce pressure to be healthier. At the same time it enhances the wearing comfort of shoes. When you wear high heels you can also use the forefeet mats to reduce foot injuries. Only protecting our own feet can we keep beautiful appearance longer.

Forever Love of High Heels

t can be said with certainty that women love walking in high heel. According to the study which links stilettos to the female psyche, a woman will wear high heels over 51 years of her life. As all we know that high heels are uncomfortable and make walking more difficult and tough. Even more, the durative use of high heels will injure the feet, knees and back. While there are still a bunch of women are crazy about them, why do women keep wearing them in spite of all the hurts and uncomfort?

The most sample answer seems to be that women in heels can attract more favorable attention. Wearing high heels also can give a feel of taller, thinner and more sexy. There are different kinds of high heels like the stiletto, pumps, wedge, Mary Janes. All of them can make you more appealing. There’s no denying the fact that women who wear heels look more seductive due to a change in their posture. A pair of beautiful high heels can catch men’s eyes in the crowd, we can conclude that just a pair of high heels on foot makes a ordinary woman becomes a gorgeous lady.

Secondly, high heels can make women look more confident and helps them stand out wherever they are. Nobody in the soiree will appreciate a woman who wears sportswear and sneakers. She will be regarded as so impolite. Full-dress with high heels is the necessity of an evening party. Women in high heels is elegant and confident by forcing the back to be straight and pushing the breast forward and buttocks backwards, and it makes women’s legs look longer and slender. Not only office lady needs high heel to gain confidence but also housewives needs it to attract their husbands’ care and attention ,and even little girls who always try their mothers’ high heels can’t wait desperately for the day they can wear high heels will come soon .

In conclusion, women wear high heels in order to project confidence and poise. It also helps them look more sophisticated especially when in a office as a office lady or when attending formal external business meetings. It is no doubt that women will love high heels forever for the sake of the dream of becoming more beautiful ,more attractive ,more elegant,more fancy and more confident of every women . It’s the women’s rosy attitude towards her life and the whole world. However, it is not healthy and wise for you to wear high heels all the time, please wear them depending on the place and occasion.

How to wear high heels correctly

But high heels will cause some feet diseases for a long period of time without the correct way. The damage makes feet deformation as time passes. This is against the original intention that in order to shape the beauty of the high heel shoes. Therefore, ladies should learn to the correct ways to wear high heel shoes, and take advantage of high heels to create more attractive glamour for ourselves. Do not never wear high heels any more since you do not master the right methods. That may reduce your charming greatly. Please remember it,” Humans do not invented useless things to himself”. Maybe we can not combine the beauty with comfort perfectly, but we can prevent the feet diseases as long as we pay attention to high heel shoes. So we should notice these tips as follows.

1. Do not always wear the high heel shoes of the same height usually, in order to avoid the same place of foot often be crushed.
2. At ordinary times when you sitting, you should bend your feet firstly, then gently stretch your legs and maintain this gesture 30 minutes. Don’t raise your legs, it can make the foot relaxed.
3. Hold out bosom and accept stomach when you are walking in high heels. Natural, easy and steady, don’t slouch and it is unfavorable to trot and run, even go up the mountain and climbing.
4. Pay more attention to the maintenance of the foot at ordinary times. Develop the habit of soaking feet in hot water every day and massage feet appropriately.
5. If you wear the shoes with rather high heels, please pay attention the situation. Do not wear them when you squeeze yourself into a croweded bus or walk in a uneven road, because rather high heel shoes are disigned for special occasions, such as a ball.
6. Some special high heels are not for walking, they are of great significance in sex in the specific time. So it is not necessary to wear them in ordinary.
7.People wear high heel shoes and walk should pay attention to constantly rest. You can tilting your tiptoes and try to move the calf.
8. Had better not wear leather shoes barefoot, that may damage the skin of feet.
9. when you wear pointed high heel shoes, remember moveing toes when you are free. This can relieve to your feet and prevent the same place froe getting too much squeezed.
11. Wearing high heels to walk, the heels must time to sink down from time to time. So in order to not lead to excessive fressure for nails, there must be certain space for nails.
12. The new high heel shoes must be a little tight, not too loose.

High heels – how to make them least affected

Shoes are indeed the most integral part of wardrobe. Finding the shoe which is stylish yet comfortable and sync with your rest of the wardrobe could be travail. However, things get more convoluted when shoe hunt is for women. Women happen to be more fashion conscious and trend follower. In their pursuit of finding the well designed and trendy footwear; they, sometimes, opt for something that can harm their health. Yes- it is an out rightly wrong perception that footwear has got nothing to do with health. In order to fathom this entire phenomenon that links footwear with health; we need to understand the “heel conundrum”.

Yes-I am using the word conundrum. Heels have always been topic of discussion among the different segments of society. Gender experts have always been quite vocal about heels and there have been several potent arguments in the advocacy and adversary on the size of heels. Some feminists argue that heels are used just to enhance the woman’s sex appeal and water down her image to a “sex object”. Some have gone to an extent that long heels are used just to make women stagger slowly and portray her as delicate and vulnerable creature who completely depends on men. In this article I will shed some light on how heels can affect you feet and how to make them least harmful.

How long heels can harm you?

When you wear high heels longer than usual, you are putting your feet in an abnormal position. More the feet remains in this position, more it can cause the Achilles tendon to shorten. When the foot is bent towards front side, ball of the foot and toe will have to carry the weight. It increases the chance of damage to underlying soft tissue. I have met and heard about people who, in their penchant of adopting new styles, have undergone complicated foot and toe related surgeries.

However, the more complicated and long lasting problem oversize heels can cause is spine problem. When women wear big heals, they automatically push their centre of gravity towards forward. It makes their spine carry the most of their body weight to make them stand straight. When a survey was conducted, many women facing spine problem turned out to be the victim of oversize heels.

How to make heels least affected?

It is simply not possible for women to abandon the heels. Some wear them to look tall, some likes them and some just want to satiate their appetite for fashion. Best way to make heels least affected is minimizing their use.

1) If you are wearing heels in office, put them off while you are sitting and wear them again when you have to move.

2) If you know you have to wear shoe with high heels on weekend, reduce their use in the weekdays.

3) Buy comfy slippers for home and comfortable sneakers to run errands to compensate the damage cause by heels.

4) Get a nice pair of wedges shoes. Their thick and wide heel is bit comfortable; furthermore, the can be used for formal and casual occasion both.

Young girls are more exposed to the injuries cause by big heels because of their predilection towards new vogues. In their Endeavour to stand out from the herd, they do not feel hesitate to go over the board even on the expense of their health. Balance is the key. Wear heels if it’s inevitable, but wear the intermittently.